5 Ways To Regain Confidence To Be The Best At What You Do

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Confidence is the belief in one’s ability to succeed. Unfortunately, all it takes is one bad experience for confidence to fly out the window. A bad breakup or losing a job are types of experiences that make you feel cheated, betrayed, and embarrassed. All feelings that hurt your confidence so that the next time you are faced with the same scenario, you’ll question which actions to take even though you already know the answer. Keep reading to see how these 5 ways will help you to regain confidence, boost your self-esteem, and bring you back to the successful you.


It’s easy to get upset when someone points out a flaw or criticizes you. But if you take the time to meditate each day, you’ll learn how to respond to those situations appropriately, all while keeping a sense of high self-esteem. Meditation doesn’t mean that you need to sit under a tree seeking enlightenment. Meditation can be anything you want it to be. Find a time of day when you can be in a place specifically for quieting your mind and focusing only on the breath. If you make this a habit, you’ll not only regain your self-esteem but also become a more relaxed and stress-free person.

Talk about it

There is nothing more healthy than talking about your feelings. Even if you are an introvert or a private person, opening up about how you feel to a friend or family member can set things straight. So a coworker pointed out a flaw they noticed in your work. Explain to someone why that comment hurt you. Or if they are the one responsible for the comment, confront them. Talking through the details to see how you got to where you are can make you see things in a different light. Perhaps a coworker’s comment wasn’t meant to hurt you, but more so to improve your performance so that you can be successful.

Take a risk

Not enough people take risks anymore. A risk can be whatever you want it to be. Take being a writer for instance. You risk your confidence when you decide to share your writing with others. Not everyone is going to like your style or what you write about. But that is a risk you are going to have to take. You’ll never strengthen your self-esteem if you hold back from foreign situations that have the potential to show what a strong individual you are.

Be wary of pride

Pride plays a huge role when it comes to loss of confidence. Say you lose a job because your boss says you aren’t stepping up enough. You can look them in the face and think of all the times that you worked late or took on other projects that they never recognized you for. Always thinking that you have to be right crushes you when something goes south. Keep your pride in check so that when it is in question, it won’t hurt as much.

Learn from bad experiences

Bad experiences won’t ruin your confidence unless you let it. As a virtual assistant or writer, you will hear feedback about your performance or work that you won’t like. That’s why you should always take criticism with a grain of salt. Your entrepreneur has their own writing style or way of doing things and that’s something you have to learn to respect. They give you feedback so that you can do better, not to put you down. An entrepreneur needs you just as much as you need them. Even if you think you lost your confidence long before now, you can regain it, but you have to actively try to.

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How Taking A Personality Test Can Make For A More Productive Team

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As a virtual assistant, you put yourself out there meeting people all over the web. You could be the best at what you do, but sometimes things don’t work out between you and your entrepreneur. That’s why taking a personality test could save you a lot of heartache. Read on to see why you’ll be more productive by using a personality test to assess whether or not you’ll work well with an entrepreneur.

Less conflict

You want to work with someone that you can relate to. If your personality doesn’t mesh well with your entrepreneur’s personality, the likelihood of getting into an argument is higher. Knowing that both you and your entrepreneur have the same mentality eliminates pointless arguments. Not only is that good for your entrepreneur’s business, but it makes being a virtual assistant much more enjoyable.

Better communication

A personality test also helps to reveal the best way that you communicate. Take that knowledge and find an entrepreneur that communicates the same way. There are a lot of ways to communicate when you work remotely in addition to phone calls and emails. Online messaging apps like Slack, HipChat, Skype, and Zoom are free to use and make working virtually easier. Using the wrong type of communication can get confusing and cause issues. With less back and forth, you’ll be able to complete tasks on time.


Working with someone online requires a lot of trust. There are plenty of horror stories of people getting hacked, spammed, or lied to on the web. When your personality clicks right away with an entrepreneur, they’ll trust you to handle more tasks. They’ll also be able to trust you with more private matters like managing email accounts, calendars, or even handling purchases with their credit card.

Learn the same way

When learning about an entrepreneur’s business, you want to be able to catch on right away. Training will go smoothly when you work with someone who has a similar personality as yourself. For example, it helps to start out knowing that you are working with an entrepreneur who asks a lot of questions just like you do. This way, you’ll both have realistic expectations and tolerance for one another’s learning capacity and speed.

Get the right entrepreneur

You may think you know everything about your personality but take a personality test anyways to get a more in-depth analysis about yourself. Use this assessment to figure out how much of an introvert or extrovert you are. The web is full of fun quizzes that show what food you relate most to, or what animal you were in a past life. Instead, take a real personality test like the DISC assessment or Myers-Briggs. There are free versions of these tests, but they may not show the most in-depth analysis. Take a test anyway to get a general idea about aspects of your personality you may never have thought about. When you have a better idea of how you work, you can pick and choose an entrepreneur that you know you’ll have a successful relationship with.

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5 Bad Habits Every Virtual Assistant Needs To Ditch

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Even though you don’t want to admit it, as a virtual assistant you are guilty of bad habits. The key is to figure out what they are so that you can get rid of them, and get rid of them for good. It can be tricky to pinpoint what your bad habits are. As a VA, you may think that something you do contributes to your success, yet it is actually holding you back. Or sometimes the only thing holding you back from being victorious in life is you.

Conquer anything in life by giving up these 5 bad habits. 

Quit feeling sorry for yourself

Stop feeling like life is cruel and figure out how to work through issues you may be going through. Having a pity party because you haven’t met you quarterly goal is a waste of time.  To become successful, you need to be tough and driven by failure. Hike up your pants, learn from your mistakes, and get back into the market.

Perfection doesn’t exist

That may sound pessimistic, but give up on that idea and it will surprise you on how much you can get done. Assistants take on tasks that are crucial to finish on time. Take writing a blog post or content for a newsletter. Going back and rereading it to make sure it is perfect hurts productivity. It causes you to keep changing the content over and over. Finish it, edit it, and send it off to your entrepreneur. Most likely, they will approve it and send you over the next project.


Saying “Yes” when you should be saying “No”

Saying “Yes” to every project that your entrepreneur sends your way can make or break your career as a virtual assistant. Take managing a website. If you have no idea how to do so, you lose credibility. Your entrepreneur may think twice about what you are capable of and will have trouble letting go of tasks. Be upfront and honest with them about what you are an expert at. They’ll appreciate it even if it feels like you are letting them down.

Forcing yourself to get along with everyone

Don’t feel like you have to work with someone just because they are paying you well. You’re not always going to get along with everyone and that’s okay. If you and a client don’t seem to be seeing eye to eye, then that’s when it is time to move on. Remember to be polite about it. As the saying goes, there is plenty of fish in the sea. Every day entrepreneurs are looking for someone to take over tasks interfering with running their business. You won’t have an issue finding someone who you’ll get along with.

You can’t control life

Things will happen and sometimes there isn’t a darn thing you can do about it. You’ll have sick days, appointments, tech issues, or issues in your personal life. It is what it is. Accept that you can’t control those things and focus on what you can control. Stress is a big one here. Step away from the computer, close your eyes, and take deep breaths. Things will work out, they always do. Take these tips into consideration and success will come your way.

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Tips And Tools To Know When Working With A Remote Staff

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As a virtual assistant, I have learned a lot about working with a remote staff. I know from experience that if you don’t set a few ground rules in place, things can get disorganized quickly. This issue came about recently when I picked up a client new to working remotely with someone.  The main problem was that emails were getting misinterpreted and she found the organizational apps I recommended to be confusing. To get things back on track, I thought it would best to work things out over the phone. But because we were in different time-zones, we would miss one another’s calls easily.

All I could offer her was advice from my past experiences with clients. Luckily, I came across an article on Forbes.com that explained the best practices to put in play when organizing a remote staff. The tips I found got us to schedule phone calls, share a calendar, and work better together in general.

Take a look at An Eight Step Guide To Finding, Selecting, and Managing Remote Staff by Ben Walker. If you’re like me, the tips found here are something to take with you to each new client you bring in.

5 Books That Every Entrepreneur Should Read

I love to read and write because of the empowering effect books have on people. When I was studying in college, finding a job, and my surgery, I reached out to books. Not always a self-help book, but books that made me laugh, learn, and inspire me. These 5 books have shaped me into the person that I am today, and I recommend every entrepreneur should read them as well.

The Power Of Habit – Charles Duhigg

In The Power of Habit, award-winning New York Times business reporter Charles Duhigg walks through the scientific discoveries that explain why habits exist and how they can be changed. Duhigg explains the rationality behind why people and companies struggle to change. You’ll learn about how the right habits were a crucial part in the successes of renowned athletes, CEOs, and celebrities. One of the key ideas behind changing a habit is to be diligent and do it for at least 30 days. Why is that? Pick up a copy of The Power Of Habit to find out.

You Are The Placebo: Making You Mind Matter – Dr. Joe Dispenza

Yes, I am a yogi and I do meditate. But it wasn’t until I made it a habit (see!) that I understood what a powerful effect it has on the body, mind, and soul. Dr. Joe Dispenza explains how belief can be so strong that it actually takes over the mind and can affect the body. For example, if you keep thinking that you can’t accomplish something, then you won’t be able to accomplish it. The book ends with a “how-to” meditation for changing beliefs and perceptions that hold us back—the first step in healing.

Etched in Sand – Regina Calcaterra

Regina Calcaterra is a successful lawyer, New York State official, and activist. She went through hell to get to where she is today. Her and her four other siblings survived an abusive childhood growing up in and out of foster care. It was a story that said this is how I made the best out of a horrible situation. She sends out a message about how you can’t blame other people for how you end up as an adult. If you want a good life, you have to work for it no matter whether you come from wealth or are sleeping out of a car with 5 other people.

Great Expectations – Charles Dickens

In what may be Dickens’s best novel, humble, orphaned Pip is apprenticed to the dirty work of the forge but dares to dream of becoming a gentleman — and one day, under sudden and enigmatic circumstances, he finds himself in possession of “great expectations.” Want to hear a secret? This is why this crazy cat named her cat Pip!

Harry Potter Series – J.K. Rowling

Couldn’t leave this series of books out of this list. In a world of witches and wizards, you learn how good always wins. Bullies don’t accomplish anything unless you let them get to you. There is always a way around fighting evil, and you can do so without using a wand. Instead, use tactics like looking at things from the bully’s perspective and even showing sympathy towards them can possibly change their wicked ways.

Reading all of these books was the inspiration to becoming a content writer. I try my best to get creative whenever and tailor each article to the tone of voice of the business. Please contact me at watkinsdigitalmarketing@gmail.com for more information on my services and a free estimate.