Confidence is the belief in one’s ability to succeed. Unfortunately, all it takes is one bad experience for confidence to fly out the window. A bad breakup or losing a job are types of experiences that make you feel cheated, betrayed, and embarrassed. All feelings that hurt your confidence so that the next time you are faced with the same scenario, you’ll question which actions to take even though you already know the answer. Keep reading to see how these 5 ways will help you to regain confidence, boost your self-esteem, and bring you back to the successful you.
It’s easy to get upset when someone points out a flaw or criticizes you. But if you take the time to meditate each day, you’ll learn how to respond to those situations appropriately, all while keeping a sense of high self-esteem. Meditation doesn’t mean that you need to sit under a tree seeking enlightenment. Meditation can be anything you want it to be. Find a time of day when you can be in a place specifically for quieting your mind and focusing only on the breath. If you make this a habit, you’ll not only regain your self-esteem but also become a more relaxed and stress-free person.
There is nothing more healthy than talking about your feelings. Even if you are an introvert or a private person, opening up about how you feel to a friend or family member can set things straight. So a coworker pointed out a flaw they noticed in your work. Explain to someone why that comment hurt you. Or if they are the one responsible for the comment, confront them. Talking through the details to see how you got to where you are can make you see things in a different light. Perhaps a coworker’s comment wasn’t meant to hurt you, but more so to improve your performance so that you can be successful.
Not enough people take risks anymore. A risk can be whatever you want it to be. Take being a writer for instance. You risk your confidence when you decide to share your writing with others. Not everyone is going to like your style or what you write about. But that is a risk you are going to have to take. You’ll never strengthen your self-esteem if you hold back from foreign situations that have the potential to show what a strong individual you are.
Pride plays a huge role when it comes to loss of confidence. Say you lose a job because your boss says you aren’t stepping up enough. You can look them in the face and think of all the times that you worked late or took on other projects that they never recognized you for. Always thinking that you have to be right crushes you when something goes south. Keep your pride in check so that when it is in question, it won’t hurt as much.
Bad experiences won’t ruin your confidence unless you let it. As a virtual assistant or writer, you will hear feedback about your performance or work that you won’t like. That’s why you should always take criticism with a grain of salt. Your entrepreneur has their own writing style or way of doing things and that’s something you have to learn to respect. They give you feedback so that you can do better, not to put you down. An entrepreneur needs you just as much as you need them. Even if you think you lost your confidence long before now, you can regain it, but you have to actively try to.